I am a husband, father, and Lutheran pastor. Was first exposed to mini gaming while attending seminary in St. Louis. Got sucked into Warmachine then. Once Hordes came out got sucked into that as well. Played Confrontation for a bit, as well as AT-43, mainly in Gresham, OR. Got sucked into MonPoc here in NJ when it came out. I have a wife who is totally cool with me playing mini games. I currently have no LGS nearby so Vassal is my only outlet for gaming.
There are some ios/Android army builder apps that aren’t directly linked to any particular game system (Battlescribe is one). Often you have to set it up to use user-created files for each game you want to use it for. These can be glitchy or inaccurate though, depending on the person who created the file.
There may be something more… refined… for X-wing already but I’m not aware of it.